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The Game Of Tennis: An African American Journey by Bernard A. Chavis is an interesting account of a man who has seen a lot of problems in terms of race and inequality. It really makes you wonder why more African Americans don't have an interest in the game of tennis. It will really get you thinking of a solution to improve African American participation in the sport.

Mr. Chavis was a standout basketball and football player growing up in Washington, DC, but never seriously considered playing tennis when he was young.  In a recent interview with Tennis Week magazine, Chavis stated:  "During my youth, playing tennis was out of the question," Chavis says. "It was not considered a manly sport and if any of my friends saw a Negro youngster even pick up a racket, that unfortunate youngster would be teased and ridiculed for days on end."

Chavis went to college (Villanova University) on a basketball scholarship.  He taught himself how to play tennis and went on to serve as national president of the American Tennis Association.

In his book Mr. Chavis examines the barriers that prevented blacks and other minorities from playing and enjoying the game of tennis.  As an administrator and ambassador of the game Mr. Chavis is sharing his experiences to level the playing game for the sport that he loves so that young men like me won’t be denied the physical and business rewards associated with the game of tennis.

To learn more about Bernard A. Chavis visit:  http://chavisinfo.com.

  • Publisher: Buy Books on the Web.Com
  • Pub. Date: December 2007
  • ISBN-13: 9780741442901
  • 210 pages

Review written by Christopher and Gary Johnson.

GM's Corvette Plant Manager Honored by the Engineering Deans of Historically Black Colleges and Universities

Unique Award Created to Recognize Wilmer Cooksey's Longtime Dedication to African-American Education

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Wilmer Cooksey

Detroit, MI (BlackNews.com) - The Council of Engineering Deans of the Historically Black Colleges and Universities will recognize GM Corvette plant manager Wilmer Cooksey with its Lifetime Service award for his longtime dedication to education for African Americans. The group will present the prestigious award to Cooksey, a former college professor, on Saturday, Feb. 16 during the Black Engineer of the Year Award program in Baltimore.

"Many people leave the workplace for academia, but Wil did the opposite: he brought his advanced academic knowledge to the shop floor," said Gary Cowger, GM group vice president of Global Manufacturing and Labor Relations, who will speak about Cooksey 's achievements during the award ceremony. "We are grateful for the leadership he has brought to GM manufacturing, and we're proud of his lifetime commitment to education."

The award was created especially for Cooksey, who was an assistant professor in industrial engineering at General Motors Institute in Flint, Mich. before taking his first job GM manufacturing job in 1976. Cooksey held leadership positions at GM plants in St. Louis, Atlanta and Fairfax, Kan. before being named plant manager of GM's only Chevy Corvette plant in Bowling Green, Ky. in 1993. Under Cooksey's direction, the Corvette and the plant have won numerous awards. Cooksey, who has called running the Corvette plant his "dream job," announced his retirement effective March 1.

Cooksey serves on the Tennessee State University Foundation Board of Trustees, the Western Kentucky University School of Business Advisory Board, the Western Kentucky University College of Education and Behavioral Science, Drug Abuse Resistance Education Advisory Council and the Advancing Minorities' Interest in Engineering (AMIE) Board of Directors.

A native of Fort Worth, Texas, Cooksey earned a bachelor's degree in electrical engineering from Tennessee State University in 1965 and a master's degree in industrial engineering from the University of Toledo in 1972. He completed postgraduate work in mechanical engineering at Michigan State University.


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Many of you were introduced to Wilmer “Wil” Cooksey, Jr., through our exclusive interview with him in 2003.  Mr. Cooksey was named manager of the world's only Corvette plant in February of 1993. As a lifelong fan of the car, it was a dream job come true.

Born in Fort Worth, Texas, Mr. Cooksey received a Bachelor of Science degree in electrical engineering from Tennessee State University in 1965. He earned a Master's degree in industrial engineering from the University of Toledo in 1972 and completed post graduate work in mechanical engineering at Michigan State University.

A Distinguished Graduate of the Officer's Training School, Cooksey served as an executive officer in the U.S. Army Artillery, 1st Lieutenant. His last assignment was a year in Vietnam. For his efforts while in Vietnam, he was awarded the bronze medal.

Mr. Cooksey's General Motors career is the epitome of achievement beginning with his first job as an assistant professor in industrial engineering at GMI in Flint, Michigan to his current position.

Mr. Cooksey’s accomplishments are long and historic.  In 1997 Cooksey received the "Black Engineer of the Year President's Award." Also in 1997, Austin Peay University named him "Achiever of the Year" in their Focus Program.  He also received a Presidential Citation from the National Association for Equal Opportunity in Higher Education in recognition of exemplary experience that honors Tennessee State University. Dollars & Sense Magazine honored Cooksey in their 1998 "Salute to America's Best & Brightest Business and Professional Men and Women." Cooksey is featured on the cover of African Americans on Wheels magazine as they named the Corvette the "Best Urban Car of the Year." He has been honored as an Outstanding Graduate of Tennessee State and named a "Black Achiever in the Industry" by the Southern Christian Leadership Conference.

You can read Gary Johnson’s exclusive 2003 interview with Mr. Cooksey below. 

BMIA.com:  How important of a factor was education in your accomplishments? 

Education has been critical to my success.  In the 1950’s and 60’s you couldn’t expect or dream about opportunities if you didn’t further your education.  The same holds true today.  Growing up I saw so many people who were not given the professional opportunities available because of a lack of education.  My mother taught my siblings as well as myself the importance of education.  In fact, all eight of us went to college.  An education is something no one can ever take away from you. 

BMIA.com:  You’re involved in a lot of community service work.  Were you taught as a child to be a good citizen or is this something that you learned later in life in the work world? 

Growing up in a lower-income, blue-collar family in Texas, we depended on services to help us out during certain times.  Even though my mom worked full-time in a hospital, money was very tight.  There were quite a few times when services would bring food or Christmas presents to the house for us kids. 

Now I am in a position to return the favor and help others.  Supporting my community through the United Way and educational institutions, like Tennessee State University (TSU), are very important to our workplace and to me.   

BMIA.com:  Who influenced you the most? 

Wil Cooksey:  My mother always had her sights set on earning a college education.  However, she was burdened by taking care of our family and working full-time.  She took night courses and always kept trying.  She was absolutely delighted when I as well as my siblings earned our college degrees.  It was her focus and determination that influenced me the most growing up. 

My wife, Dr. Elizabeth Cooksey, has also been a great influence in my life.  We met while we were in college at TSU.  It was with her guidance and example that I saw the importance of getting a great education as well as having a good social life.  She’s been a guiding light ever since.  This year we’ll celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary. 

BMIA.com:  What’s your position on Affirmative Action in the workplace? 

Wil Cooksey:  Affirmative Action is absolutely necessary.  I believe that organizations are aware of the importance of diversity.  However, many do not have the action steps behind it to support creating a diverse workforce.  Unfortunately, you are not going to get the right mix of people automatically.

In today’s competitive market it is very difficult to recruit the best and brightest.  It takes a good recruiting program to attract the talent and diversity that companies need to be successful.  It requires mentoring, training and hiring practices that bring in people who are going to continue to grow and challenge traditional thought. 

BMIA.com:  Based on your experiences, how does someone fight racism and sexism in America? 

Wil Cooksey:  The most important way to fight racism or sexism is not to feed or perpetuate it.  You cannot win if you use racism to fight racism.  Every individual has to walk the talk and set the example of how you as an individual want to be treated. 

Education is the key.  I believe that ignorance is the basis for most of the racism and sexism that we see in our society.  We will all have a greater understanding of one another if we support educational programs and opportunities for all different kinds of people. 

BMIA.com:  What was your earliest or most vivid recollection of being “different?” 

Wil Cooksey:  I never really realized that I was different until I started wanting to go to the movies with my friends.  Not only was I black and had to sit in the upper balcony but I was also tall.  In fact I was so tall for my age that I had to carry my birth certificate with me so the movie attendants would believe that I was 10 years old.  Otherwise, I would have had to pay more than 10 cents to see some of the greatest westerns ever made. 

It is at that age that I realized the inequities between the races.  By working and being surrounded by all types of people, I quickly learned that if I was going to be successful you have to have a better understanding of all people. 

BMIA.com:  What would you say has been your biggest success to date? (Personal and/or business). 

Wil Cooksey:  My entire career I have focused on becoming the plant manager of the world’s greatest sports car, the Chevrolet Corvette.  The success that the car and the plant have had – winning more than 55 industry awards – in the past 5 years and launching the brand new Cadillac XLR means a great deal to me.  It has taken the teamwork and focus of everyone at Bowling Green Assembly. 

Personally, my greatest success is being happily married to my wife for forty years.  We’ve been together through degrees, moves, wars, children and careers.  I am very proud of her and her accomplishments.  Most recently she earned her doctorate in secondary education.  It is with her unending support that I am most successful. 

BMIA.com:  Did you have any mentors growing up? 

Wil Cooksey:  When I first hired into General Motors your mentors were people you didn’t even know.  They worked behind the scenes making sure that you were given opportunities that you would traditionally be looked over for.  I began my career as a professor at GMI, now Kettering University, and teaching statistics.  However, my goal was to get back into production management and to become a plant manager. At that time GM’s Chairman of the Board was Dick Terrell.  It was as a faculty member that I met Mr. Terrell.  The board used to come and have lunches with the faculty quite frequently.  He took an interest in my career and helped me transition to a career in manufacturing where I eventually became a plant manager.  Little did I know that he was pushing my career from behind the scenes. 

Now I serve as a mentor to many students at TSU and I can proudly look at the careers of employees who have grown up through my ranks.  It is my pleasure and greatest achievement to help mentor those who have ambition, talent and a drive to succeed.

BMIA.com:  What makes the Corvette so special? 

Wil Cooksey:  There is no one thing that makes Corvettes so special.  I could talk about all the specific reasons for hours.   

Corvettes have to be in your blood.  When I lived in Atlanta I decided that it would be for the best to sell my Corvettes since I had so many different interests.  It didn’t take long before a sense of loneliness and emptiness set in deep inside me.  Corvettes take a place in your life whether you are driving, washing or showing them.  Very quickly I went to Tom Juniper Chevrolet because I was having Corvette withdrawal.  He let me take a two-toned white and silver ’82 home right off the lot.  I was happy once again.  Since that day I have never been without a Corvette. 

Basically Corvettes end up being members of your family.  It doesn’t matter the year or body style, they are all special.  You depend on them and they take car of you. 

BMIA.com:   Under your leadership, Corvette has won a number of prestigious awards.  What did you do to re-establish the Vette and win these awards? 

Wil Cooksey:  Bowling Green Assembly has been very successful due to entire team working together to achieve one common goal.  And, that is to be the best assembly plant in the world.  Our organization had to improve its productivity, performance and quality in order to be more competitive.  It took the partnership of the local UAW to take some bold steps and training of the entire workforce. We focused on safety and quality. 

We also created enthusiasm by listening closely to our customers.  We started to use customer feedback from JD Power, Corvette shows and other mechanisms to solve quality problems.  It took teams of engineers, management and UAW members working together to get our quality where it is today.  We have learned that if you develop close relationships and listen to your customers you will be successful. 

BMIA.com:  How important is diversity in today’s workplace? 

Wil Cooksey:  Diversity is essential.  In fact it’s mandatory if you are going to be successful. Our customers are diverse just as the people would build our products are diverse.  Companies today will not meet the needs of their customer base if they don’t have the same diversity in the workplace. 

There’s strength in diversity, which means there is more than one way to always look at something. As a leader, if you have a diverse organization there is a greater probability that you will make the best decisions for the entire workforce.  

BMIA.com:   As you climbed the corporate ladder was it difficult to find a happy balance between work and family? 

Wil Cooksey:  Unfortunately, you sacrifice a little bit of your time.  However, you have to take on the challenge to support your career as well as your family.  I didn’t get to go to all of my son’s track meets or my daughter’s band activities as they were growing up, but I did go to a majority of them.   

It has helped that my wife is a professor and has a demanding schedule as well.  It is important that we both remain flexible and know one another’s schedule. 

BMIA.com:  You are a trailblazer.  What advise would you give to someone who wanted to make a career in corporate America? 

Wil Cooksey:  Here’s the advice that I would give any young professional wanting to make a career in corporate America:

-          It is important to have an excellent education.   Excel in your studies and take educational opportunities such as internships and work programs that will give you professional experience in your field. 

-          As a student, make sure that you attract company representatives that can give you good advice and take on a mentorship role.  As a student or young professional, you are going to have to help navigating your career.

-          If you are going to be successful it is imperative that you have strong people skills.  Essentially, all people want to do the right thing. When entering a new organization you need to be part of the team and not come in a threatening manner.

-          Always show initiative.  Remember, it is deeds not words that get the job done.  You have to be known for getting the job done successfully.

-          Finally, no matter what the job is remember to always do your best.  Never let anyone see your displeasure with a certain job or let them see you sweat.  Go into each job to make the most of it.  If you always do your best, no one including yourself, will ever be able to question your integrity. 

BMIA.com:  What’s next for Corvette?

Wil Cooksey:  We’re very excited about the future of Corvette both with the 2004 model and the upcoming C6.  It has been a great pleasure to be involved and contribute to three generations of Corvettes. 

BMIA.com:   What’s next for Wil Cooksey? 

Wil Cooksey:  It’s my goal to have a pleasant and enjoyable end of my career.  The most rewarding thing is to see the people’s lives that I’ve touched as they go on ahead and achieve great things.   There’s never a dull moment in my life.  I am always ready for the next challenge. 

BMIA.com:  Is there anything you’d like to share with our readers that I didn’t ask? 

Wil Cooksey:  People are your greatest resource.  It’s amazing what you can achieve when everyone works together.  You’re greatest strength is those who surround and support you.


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Leonard Rowe

“The Man Behind The Tour”

Leonard Rowe is a soldier in an industry that can be cut throat, racially discriminatory and relentlessly unyielding.  His work provides jobs to communities across the country and many don't even know to credit him or his kind for bringing money into black communities. 

His work may seem like a fun and glamorous career, but he is quick to pull the sheet back on the scathing bed of corruption that holds the deep dark secrets of this field.

Despite the many drawbacks and situations that occur as he pushes forward he finds enjoyment in his work and feels he has not only a right but a purpose in staying.  His staying power is quickly credited to God and those who have supported him.  Leonard Rowe sees beyond the concerns and problems and realizes that giving up will not make the path any easier for his predecessors, nor will his fight for justice be one that is fought with any more ease for those who remain behind.

So who is Leonard Rowe and what does he do?  Is he a literal soldier in the armed forces?  Does he work in the corporate world and bang his head on the glass ceiling we all have heard of?  Is he out there fighting the “good ol’ boy” system of politics? No…he's a top flight concert promoter.  And yet he manages to shed light on an industry that still has deep roots in a racist thrust toward monetary power shifts within the entertainment industry.

I asked Mr. Rowe if he knew a lot about promoting and just how he got started and he began to recant his genesis.  “I started promoting in 1975.  And it was on a whim that I started promoting.  I was in love with a group at the time called The Spinners.  I wasn’t thinking about entering into the industry at all.  I just wanted to see The Spinners perform.  So a friend of mine and I flew out of Atlanta to Newark, New Jersey to see the Spinners.  We got up there around noon and we decided to go downtown to Symphony Hall to where they were playing.  I went down to the building and the line was two blocks long.  At that particular time, the tickets were seven dollars [in Newark] which was high because down South the tickets are traditionally lower than they are up North.  So that seven dollars was extremely high and I thought it was a lot of money.  As I stood in that line about a block away from the building, I mumbled out to myself, talking out loud “I wonder who’s getting all these seven dollars.”  And some guy who was standing in line said, “The promoter gets these seven dollars.”  I didn’t know what a promoter was or what he did but I made up in my mind that that was what I was gonna be and here I am some 32 years later.  So basically that is how I got interested and into the industry.”

Rowe continues with the story, telling of his first loss and how important it was to have a strong support system.  “I went from there and started learning as much as I could learn on my own because, no one helps you in this business.  No one volunteers advice.  I went from there and met a good banker who was my friend, and is my friend today.  He went out on a limb and loaned me a few thousand dollars, which I lost, but I was able to keep going doing about two shows a year.  So with him on my side, and by the grace of God, I was always able to keep going.  But, to get ahead, I always tell people it’s like obtaining credit.  You could be a person coming out of college with no credit…never had bad credit and never had good credit.  You walk into a bank and ask for a Visa and that banker will deny you nine times out of ten; not because you have bad credit but because you have no credit at all.  You can go across the street to another bank and ask for a Master Charge and a banker there might see something in you and take a chance with you and say, ‘Come on…I ain’t supposed to do this but I will issue you a Master Charge.’”  Once he gives you that Master Charge you can go immediately back across the street and ask for a Visa and they will give it to you, so it’s like that in promoting.”

I couldn’t help but wonder who the first act was that gave him a chance.  Rowe affectionately talks about that break like it was yesterday.  “I was able [to get a big act] a few years after I started, I was never able to get a real superstar artist, to talk to one of the biggest groups in the country at the time. The O’Jays.  The O’Jays gave me about half of their tour.  For some reason they liked me.  I don’t know why, but they did and I got half of their tour and it was all successful.  All of the shows sold out in every major arena that we played and from that point on I began to book every major artist n the country from Michael Jackson on down.  So I give a lot of credit to The O’Jays for going out on a limb and taking a chance with me.  I am thankful today to them for that.”

I read about the struggles and problems Rowe has had in the industry.  He was the man behind a major class action lawsuit against the concert industry.  The lawsuit was dismissed, a major setback for Rowe, but he continues the fight and is not giving up on pursuing equality.  I needed to know more about the injustice he fights because so far, things seem as though every day hard knocks we all must deal with when starting a new business.  Leonard Rowe then gave me a history lesson full of insight that made me feel privileged to be privy to such a wealth of knowledge.

“Being a concert promoter is a very highly stressful job.  They are responsible for all costs.  If people decide not to come to your show, you are still responsible for the costs.  Its very stressful not only to play one show, but to launch a national tour like an R. Kelly tour when you are hitting every major city in the US it becomes very highly stress.  Especially in these days; Black promoters are becoming extinct.  They are basically gone.  That’s due to the racism and discrimination in this industry, they have basically eliminated us.  So, it’s very hard for Black Promoter to maintain.  Yes, I have been blessed.  I know I have to stay around as long as I have.  It’s the way the industry treats us.  A black promoter is not given the opportunity to promote a White act like an Elton John or a U2 or The Rolling Stones.  The White promoters, and I know all of ‘em that came into the industry with me, are able to promote any and all acts be it Black or White.  If I call the booking agency and ask them what’s available for me, they’ll only go down the Black roster.  If a White promoter calls that same booking agency and asks what’s available, they’ll go down both the Black and White roster.  So it’s very hard for a Black promoter to maintain in this industry, no matter whether he has the wherewithal or the knowledge…that doesn’t matter.  They will not sell me a date on U2 and they make no exceptions for that.  So, it’s difficult.  But, I have to keep going and fighting for what is right, which I intend to do.”

The obvious injustice is apparent in that equality is not practiced, but it runs deeper.  He shifts gears and talks about the turn around benefits of supporting African American promoted concerts.

“R. Kelly should be commended for what he has done.  He stepped forward to fight against that type of racism and gave his whole tour to a Black promoter.  And see, many people don’t know what all that entails and what is the significance of that.  So, let me tell you the significance of that.  A promoter, be it Black or White, sits at the helm of the distribution of that concert dollar.  That promoter is the person that hires the catering service, the limo service, the production service, the security company and the list goes on and on for a tour of this magnitude.  So, when a Black promoter sits at the helm, all of a sudden, Black security companies profit.  Black production companies profit.  Black catering companies profit.  And, the list goes on and on.  So instead of that concert dollar fertilizing Beverly Hills and commercial districts like Rodeo drive, that dollar is brought back to our community.  That is something that the ticket buyer is not aware of when they go to that glass window and stick their money through that hole and think they are just goin’ to see Janet Jackson or think they are just goin to see Prince.  That wealth is a lot of money being taken away from them by the White promoter who is putting that money back into the White companies and White business districts of this country.  But, when a Black promoter is aware of that and an artist is aware of that, they and try to take that wealth and redistribute it into our own communities like the White promoters do.  We are just trying to do what’s right with the concert dollar and make sure that Black America sees their money again that they stick through that glass hole.”

When asked if the artist has much control over the promoter they choose for their concert, he quickly responds “All of it!  All of it!  I stick it on them.   All of it!”  He takes a moment, however, ad gives the artist some grace… “But, I will say this; the booking agency is paid a lot of money to give them advice, but when they [the booking agency] do not even recognize Black promoters, the artist has no knowledge of the Black promoter.  It’s like this:  before the fair housing bill was passed they didn’t know that real estate agents did what is called “steering.”  If you call a real estate company and say “I’m looking for a house for two hundred thousand dollars, I want x amount of bedrooms and one and a half baths.”  If they only show you what’s up for sale in the Black neighborhoods then you don’t even know what’s for sale in the White neighborhoods and that’s how they kept segregation going.  The same thing exists in the concert industry.”

Many have discussed the strength in numbers.  Why is their not a union of form of unity amongst the Black promoters in America?  Wouldn’t that increase the power and booking ability of the Black promoter?  “Black concert promoters are a limited breed.  Those that work on a national level are down to about five.  Not the local ones doing club concerts, but on a national level.  It’s an industry that is difficult to break into, no matter how much money you have.  I have you guys come up to me all of the time and ask me how to get started.  Every time they ask me that question, I cringe because it is so hard for them to get started.  It’s a hard question for me to answer.  It really is.”

Rowe takes a moment to reflect on those he has worked with and who he really enjoyed.  “Who have I enjoyed?  Because of my relationship with him; Michael Jackson.  He was not difficult at all to work with.  I also enjoyed working with The Temptations.  God gave them a gift and they just had what it takes.  There are so many that I enjoyed working with…Patti Labelle, Stevie Wonder and I am now enjoying working with R. Kelly.  But relationship wise, I am very close to the Jackson family and I really enjoyed working with Michael.  And, I’m looking to work with him again.  I have been talking to him and trying to get him ready to go.  Hopefully I will be able to get him ready for next year.  I talked to him earlier this year and he said he wanted to do it next year.  So, hopefully, we’ll tour the world real soon.” Although he has proven he has staying power, there are still artists he would love to work with.  “I have worked with just about all of the African American acts, but I would love to be able to work with a  U2 or ‘The Rolling Stones’, but the industry would have a fit.  Maybe one day that’ll happen.”

One day…maybe…if the concertgoer and artists begin to support and demand tours promoted by Black promoters.  And, just why should they support the Black promoters?  Rowe says it best when discussing the current R. Kelly tour that features J. Holiday and Keyshia Cole.  “This tour is a tour that is produced, organized and controlled by African Americans and we ask that they come out to support us ‘cause we are trying to support them as well.”

"DOUBLE UP" TOUR STARRING  R. KELLY, WITH KEYSHIA COLE & J. HOLIDAY

This interview was conducted by Lawrence "el-Train" Evans for Black Men In America.com.

Posted 12/3/2007  Leonard Rowe Photo credit:  Renee Hannans Henry, Access Atlanta

Special thanks to Juanita Stephens of J. S. Media Relations for arranging this interview.


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FATHERLESS BOYS: A Single-Mom Watches Her Teenage Son Struggle with Impending Manhood

By Vanessa Werts

Across America, in the inner-city and in suburbia, fathers are silently disappearing from their sons’ lives. Over the last decade, fatherlessness has emerged as one of the most consequential trends facing society.  What was long thought to be primarily an African-American problem, stemming from poverty and poor education, has become an issue that crosses both racial and class lines.   

Fatherless boys are crying out for affirmation, attention, and the unconditional love of their absent fathers.  Too often they flounder about life with no real sense of self and a wounded heart. Unfortunately, for society and for many boys without fathers, feelings of awkwardness, confusion, and hurt play out in staggering statistics of violence, crime, and imprisonment.   

According to the National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI), a non profit organization established to combat father absence and promote responsible fatherhood, violent criminals are overwhelmingly males who grew up without fathers, including 72 percent of adolescent murderers and 70 percent of long-term prison inmates.¹  

Nonetheless, not all boys without fathers display deviant behavior.  Some internalize the weight of their emotions and silently struggle with who they are and what they will become.  Much like my 16-year-old son, Marcus, who besides a few undesirable grades, gives the impression of being well adjusted.