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We can all agree at some time or another in our lives someone has said something that hurt our feelings. Why do words hurt? Is there some small or large place inside us that fears the hurtful words are true? Is there a place within that suggests to you, the negative words are revealing some part of the real you? And if they are true how can you be lovable? Did the words touch what you believe to be true about you? Here is what I have learned: 1) Hurtful words say more about the person talking, than it says about you. Everyone has an opinion that is formed usually by their past experiences and/or what someone told them. Those opinions are neither right nor wrong. They are mere statements and that fact negates its truth in your life and your own experiences. 2) We all have wondrous aspects of ourselves, which is who we really are – our authentic self. Being true to ourselves allows us to accomplish what we came to earth to do and be who we came here to be. Who you really are is a loving energy; you were born a clean slate of joy and love. The only thing that changed that for you is learned behavior from listening to others – some well meaning and some not. 3) We all have flaws that make us perfectly human on a journey of self-discovery. Our experiences allow us opportunities to forgive, heal and help others. 4) We all have a choice to present our authentic self or not. For those who don’t agree with making a choice as an option, think of no change as a choice. Wishing you all the very best awareness dear reader in 2012. As always, it’s your life and your choice, Deborah
Are You a Hero in Your Life? The end of another year is here. While it is custom to review and rate the outgoing year - good or bad; today, I challenge you to ask yourself questions that can help you shape the twelve months ahead in a way that serves you well. · Are you a hero in your own life? · Are you proud of the energy you have put into the world? If your answer is yes, how can you be of service to others so they too can answer in the affirmative? If your answer is no, what is holding you back? DO NOT BLAME ANYONE ELSE! Start with yourself. What do you tell yourself that holds you back? Is what you are telling yourself really true? One of the things I learned this year was the importance we adults put on thoughts. What if thoughts are just thoughts? Thoughts do not have to be the gospel and we do not have to believe everything we think. Thoughts can change, grow and transform or thoughts can shrink you and put you in despair. If we attach to the random thoughts that create suffering we become stuck. Access the personal courage that is in your heart. Examine your thoughts with that courage so you can choose to be a hero in your own life. Whatever you accept as true for you, stay kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself, it will spill over into your relationships and create the energy of love. And isn’t that what we want to end this year with and begin with in the New Year? As always, it’s your life and therefore your choice to be a hero in your own life. -- Deborah
Self-Reflective A client told me he wasn’t self -reflective. Being self-reflective is one way we coaches believe people can march toward growth. So I set out to explain why I thought it was important:
We are on earth to learn different things; however the most meaningful lesson is love. First we learn to love ourselves and second to share that love with others. Sounds simple and is simple. You merely have to contemplate deep down what you believe about yourself and this life you have been given. It’s your life and your choice to be reflective, Deborah
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